If you are currently moving through a divorce, you most likely have many decisions to make. On top of the stress from these decisions, there is also the emotional component of the divorce, which can be as difficult, if not more difficult, as the technical aspects of the divorce process.
With so much financial and emotional pressure coming down on you from all sides during this time, it can be easy to make simple but costly mistakes. Here are three missteps you should take pains to avoid as you move through your divorce. Staying clear of these errors can help you in both the short-term and in your future post-divorce life.
1. Venting and oversharing on social media
Social media has become a popular way to share about the ups and downs of daily life. However, during a divorce, your ex and your ex’s legal team may find your social media accounts a valuable target to use your sharing against you. Avoid discussing any of the particulars of your divorce and of your personal life on your social media accounts. Even if your accounts are private, you should not assume that your ex or your ex’s legal team do not have access to what you put online there. If you can, stay away from social media during your divorce altogether.
2. Trying to DIY your divorce
Sometimes, people feel the temptation to take on a “do-it-yourself” divorce. There are many resources nowadays that allow you to learn about divorce and even complete divorce documents to file with the courts. Although it may seem like a cost-effective and effective way to handle your split, do not attempt to handle your divorce without legal assistance. You should not automatically assume that getting legal help means you will end up in a lengthy and conflictual court battle. There are other options to handle your divorce, such as mediation.
3. Letting your emotions lead
One of the biggest mistakes that people make during a divorce is letting their emotions take the lead. This is definitely understandable, because divorces bring up a lot of issues and highly-charged emotions, especially anger. You may feel a strong desire to get even or make your ex “pay” for his or her mistakes. However, you must make as much effort as you can to let a cool and more rational approach prevail. The decisions you make now are going to affect your future for a long time. That being the case, you should view your divorce with as much objectivity as possible, treating it much as you would a business transaction.