There is really no such thing as standard parenting. On the contrary, every parent must decide what works best for his or her child. Still, with a bit of effort and some flexibility, you can likely raise well-adjusted kids. You should not, however, have to contend with a co-parent who actively tries to undercut your parent-child relationship.
Parental alienation occurs when one parent psychologically manipulates a child to foster fear, anger, distrust or hostility toward the other parent. While parental alienation can occur in married couples, it is seemingly more common with divorced parents who share parenting responsibilities. You do not have to stand idly by while your ex-spouse alienates your kids.